The power of connection remains somewhat a mystery, yet at the same time, is evident in this journey we travel called life. Recently I took a very healing and much needed trip to see a family with whom I served in ministry with and had relationship with for nearly twelve years. It ended a few years back and my heart was beyond crushed. Yet, I followed my heart at the time, and with that I have absolutely no regrets! However, I do want to say I've learned so much through this journey. The lessons I've taken from this season, I believe God has used to prepare me for the next season of my life. Just as I believe He has prepared them for their next season. It has made us all wiser, through experience!
Hind sight is 20/20 and now my vision is clear! A few years back all of us involved in this breakdown, began to experience, what I now refer to as "the shift!" All of us were experiencing the unknown at that point in each of our personal journey's. There was a serious unsettledness in our hearts. We didn't even know what was happening in our hearts! We just knew something was happening! Where we all went wrong is we allowed other people's "perceptions" (opinions and gossip) of this unsettledness we were experiencing personally, to become our truth. After coming together, (and no we did not talk about any "they said, he said, she said," CRAP - we already knew enough of that had been done) we simply shared our hearts with each other, and made a discovery. We discovered what really happened! Throughout this process called sharing, we all discovered that we allowed the perceptions of others to cloud our judgment. It amazes me as to how powerful someone's perceptions about a circumstance or issue, can actually be! Yet, when it comes down to brass tacks, this so called truth is so far from actual reality! To sum it up, people attached their own reasons to our personal decisions, made serious speculations, and then shared it with others as if it were true!
So here are 10 things that we should remind ourselves when we're caught in a trap of another's shared speculations, I mean perceptions...
1. Ask the person..."is what you're about to share good for ME?"
2. If it isn't good, then tell them you don't want to hear it!
3. Life changes for everyone. Let it.
4. Remember the good stuff.
5. Forgive the not so good stuff.
6. Be accepting that we all have stuff.
7. Protect the relationship.
8. Accept each others flaws.
9. Stop the agenda.
10. Stop being a fence walker. Either you love or you don't!!
Ok one more thing to leave you with....Poopy diapers stink! Have you ever walked into a nursery and smelled the aroma of a poopy diaper? It doesn't just affect you, it affects everyone within proximity of that stinky thing. So, next time you think your opinion should be shared, ask yourself "do I stink right now?" If your opinion isn't good, then guess what, it stinks and your opinion has the power to make everything around it stink too! The next time you feel like "sharing" your opinion, go take a whiff of a poopy diaper and remember what you share may contaminate your surroundings as well as others!
We are all connected, whether we like it or not! Our part in the connection has the power to destroy or restore! We are called "ministers of reconciliation!" Let's live like it!
What do you want your part of the story to be?
What do you want your part of the story to be?
Rock YOUR Story,
TDahl
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