In my last column I shared that I
was going to discuss the feeling of being “stuck” in life. I say “feeling” because I don’t believe we’re
ever really stuck, unless of course we choose to be. Life may present us with challenges that feel
paralyzing, but I am convinced with a change in perspective, we can embrace
those challenges head on and learn to navigate and prepare for the next
season.
With the recent passing of my
Dad, childhood memories flooded my heart and mind. I didn’t grow up with my Dad, so the memories
are few, but incredibly fond! Every
fiber of my being wanted so desperately to “go back” to those few moments in
time. I spent a few days living my life
in the rear view mirror so to speak.
I wished things could have been different for my Dad and I. My reflection soon became an abyss of hopes and dreams that would remain unfulfilled. While I believe reflection is important and necessary to bring about
change, usher in growth, and to gain new perspective, I also believe
that if we look too long, we have the potential to get stuck! What we focus on gets magnified in our lives.
Source: lifechallengesemi.org
As I sat to write this month’s
column, I chuckled to myself when out of the blue the song “The Wheels on the
Bus” began to play inside my brain. That
was an oddity, and certainly unexpected during my creative time. However, I’m one of those people that pay
attention to my thought life, especially when something seems simple, like that
song for example, because I know deep down there is something to glean. So, I paused for a moment, smiled, and thought
to myself, “Tammy, the bus was always moving!”
I think as human’s, we have this tendency to get so caught up in what
has been, that we fail to look at what is, and what we desire to be. Life is always moving. It does not stop, simply because we do. It continues on and we have a huge
opportunity to embrace each day with hope, expectation, and possibility. On the flip side, pausing in life does not
mean we are stuck! It simply means we’re
refocusing on what is now important. Just
don’t stay there!
As we live our story, our
priorities will change. They
should! That means we’re growing! Life constantly changes. We can adapt to changes and make some
revisions. What we cannot afford to do
is stop!
Ask yourself the hard questions…
“Am I stopping or pausing?”
“Am I simply reflecting, or am I
choosing to be stuck?”
While the rear view mirror of
your life is important, it’s not what’s most important! Don’t let the rear view mirror in your story,
get you stuck! Use that rear view to
propel you to your next chapter!
Inspiring YOU to Live Your Story Well....Rock YOUR Story,
Tammy L Dahl
www.info@tammydahl.com
